Communication problems need nipping in the bud quick

Communication problems can be solved easily  🙂

Communication problems can escalate into major conflicts if not addressed in the early stages. Imago therapy equips you with skills that make your communication easy, effective and pleasurable.

Imagine all your communication problems replaced in only a few sessions where you are coached to become really good at effective communication!

How is your listening?

Do you just sit there quietly waiting to for the other to stop speaking so you can give your view, some advice or walk off without a word?

Good listening is active, where we give feedback to the speaker that lets them know how we’ve understood it. If we are really good, we also acknowledge how things makes sense that the speaker feels or thinks the way that they do.

How good are you at giving Empathy?

Communication problems often have only one thing missing. Empathy is different to sympathy.

Communication problems

She looks understood

How would you like to feel understood by your partner, parent, child in every discussion – no matter how difficult the subject is?

Do others feel like you understand their FEELINGS?

Yes, that’s the key ingredient  🙂

We will coach you how to do this essential skill.  It’s hard to do in a conflict situation, so why not practice when sharing nice things?

During the coaching sessions we deal with the core issues – hot potatoes  🙂

What if we Disagree?

Can you agree to disagree?  If you learn the above skills – it will be easy to see it from their perspective.  Often it’s the interesting different strengths that attract you to a person… but what happens?

Do we mention ‘power struggles’?

More likely it’s a person feeling that their needs aren’t being met that blocks their ability to put themselves in the other’s shoes.  So if we can help you with these communication skills – we can make your marriage and other

Communication problems

Admiring other’s differences

relationships exciting again.

Ph 0417 997 016 today to book an appointment


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Family patterns can help or hinder you – learn more here

Family patterns are important to understand

Family patterns can help you in your future relationships when there is a history of healthy relationships between couples, and parents with their children.  But what if they are not and you are trying to change some automatic reactions that you’ve learned?

Change your family patterns

Family patterns

Family patterns

Imago therapy coaches couples, and parents with children to communicate in such a way, that each person understands how the family traditional way impacts upon the other person.

When we understand the emotional impact on those that we love, and hear what their wish is – we can see really easily how to modify our response in certain situations. We can propose to start training ourself to do things differently from now on. When both know what the proposed change is – they can both support and help each other to take charge of your own relationship.

Learn to Recognise Family patterns

An online book showing how family patterns appear even without generations having met each other is about to be launched – check out facebook page Alida Gets Life. An aunt’s behavioural reactions are mirrored by a niece on the other side of the world – even before the niece knew of the aunt’s existence.

At this stage, please join the page. You will be the first to find out when a special landing page is available for you to complete a free subscription:-)

Family patterns

Family patterns

History repeats itself

Unless we recognise and take charge of how we live, communicate and think, we can unconsciously just do the same as previous generations. So we need to understand what’s happening first.  When reading or hearing about another family’s patterns sometimes we see it in our own family.


When subscribers receive their monthly chapter…

You will be emailed the chapter which will have some questions to think about… it’s up to you.  Ph 0417 997 016 if you need any help 🙂

Pre-marital Coaching will build a firm foundation for your relationship

Pre-marital Coaching is your best insurance 🙂

Pre-marital Coaching will build a firm foundation for your relationship and save a lot of heartache. Most of us don’t begin a university course, a job or buy an expensive home without doing some research and in-depth exploration. Why not do the same homework with our partner?

Imago pre-marital coaching is a gentle discovery where we learn how to care for our partner in the way that s/he needs 😊


Have You Chosen the Right Partner?

Many say this the day before the wedding, but seriously did you even know what you were looking for? Once you’ve become comfortable with each other, and some of the excitement has died down would be the ideal time to start doing some reputable questionnaires.

It’s important to do this instead of adding in excitement by planning the wedding, next holiday together or a party or

Pause before Marriage

Pause before Marriage

simply getting busy.

Yes, I’ve heard people describe doing all these things when they finally come to counselling because they have not been able to resolve issues.


How to Evaluate whether your partner is the Right One for you?

Who does she or he remind you of?

What is so familiar about him or her?

What is the quality of your relationship with the care-giver who your partner reminds of.

How confident are you in expressing your needs, opinions and emotions?

Does your partner respond in a way which encourages you or frustrates you?

There are a lot more questions to answer too.  How have you gone so far?

Are you having trouble answering the questions?


There is a MUCH EASIER WAY to do this….

Phone  0417 997 016 for an appointment where you will be taken through a gentle pre-marital process of discovery which will prevent problems becoming mammoth before you seek help. If you let issues become mammoth

pre-marital coaching

pre-marital coaching

problems, the tidal wave can cause so much destruction which will take so much more effort to repair… perhaps more effort than both of you might be prepared to invest.  What a pity to let a mouse become a mammoth, due to lack of preparation, research and exploration of how best to care for each other.


Discuss these Questions with your closest friends and family

Do you agree with their answers?

Are you finding yourself defending your partner = your choice?

Pre-marital coaching creates a safe space for you both to explore weaknesses and strengths whilst learning how to develop weaknesses into helpful opportunities to be important to our partner😊  Ph 0417 997 016 today for your session 🙂

Join us this Wednesday 31 Jan for a movie showing what could happen without Pre-marital coaching

Cheating can lead to a better relationship!

Cheating can be a catalyst for Relationship Improvement

Cheating might feel like it’s everywhere, but experts have a hard time pinpointing exactly how many people cheat. It makes sense that nobody wants to be honest and own up to the fact that they do it.

“The general belief is that if a person is lying to their partner, why wouldn’t they also lie to a researcher?” says Anita Chlipala, LMFT, a dating and relationships expert. One expert we spoke to, estimated that 25% of men and 14% of women cheat in a lifetime; another said they thought it was between 20-60% of couples in a lifetime.

So it’s hard to say at this point how much it happens. Not to mention, most studies are done on heterosexual couples, so there’s a big subset of the population that’s not even being included in those estimates.

Definition of Cheating

Cheating or Not?

Cheating or Not?

Cheating also encompasses a spectrum of behaviors, and every couple has different definitions for what cheating really entails.

Open relationships, or sex outside of an otherwise monogamous relationship with the consent of both partners, is not cheating — by definition, cheating involves lying. Chlipala suspects that the number of people who cheat might actually be growing because of these flimsy definitions.

“One of the prime reasons why people cheat is because of opportunity and circumstance,” she says. “Now, people have access to dating apps, or they can reconnect with an old flame on Facebook. Some people are surprised that emotional cheating is actually a thing.” Many cheating scenarios start innocently and spiral, she adds. One survey found that 76% of women thought it was cheating to send flirty texts, compared to 59% of men.

Here’s a way to open the subject with your partner 🙂

Invite them to accompany you to this award-winning movie which is followed by a discussion with the producer, local actor Ben Mortley and two relationship counsellors, including myself Francess Day 🙂

It’s a topic every couple should be able to have a light-hearted conversation about.

Cheating trends

What we do know is that socioeconomic background matters, and affluent men are more likely to cheat, but the reverse is true for women, says Andrea Bonior, PhD, a clinical psychologist who specializes in relationships.

Chlipala says that she thinks infidelity can be contagious, and you’re more likely to do it if people around you are. In fact, research suggests that divorce could be contagious, so it’s not far-fetched to think affairs could work the same way.

“We derive social norms from looking around, so it’s reasonable that a group of friends who are being unfaithful to spouses would be more likely to consider that,” Bonior says. Even though your infidelity threshold could change, she adds that “norms are a powerful thing,” so you have to be careful about what you consider acceptable behavior.

Breathe a sigh of Relief

So, whether or not infidelity is actually a “part of life” for everyone, it’s pretty clear that the statistics aren’t quite there to back up that claim. We might have some insight into factors that affect someone’s likelihood to cheat, but it’s definitely not true or worth it to say that cheating is the norm — because, as far as we know, it’s not.

Prevention of Relationship issues is possible

Prevent Relationship issues like an Affair

Can you imagine being invited by a movie producer to take part in a discussion with the audience about Relationship issues after the screening of a film presenting the painful situation of one’s partner having an affair?

Yes, I’ve just been invited 😊

Claire Harris has found that people were more interested in discussing the Relationship issues rather than the innovative filming approaches used.

She has wisely adjusted the focus of post-film discussion and invited Relationship Counsellors to be available as audience members grapple with the right and wrongs of how to respond.

Maybe you need help immediately?  Phone Francess on 0417 997 016

How would you respond to your partner’s affair?

We all think we know what we’d say and do, however when placed in the situation, many people come to counselling tossing up conflicting feelings.

What else could you feel, you ask?

Zelos is a movie which illustrates a few different alternatives.  Come along and prepare for this potential catastrophe – it might even help prevent the occurrence of an affair.



Relationship issues

Relationship issues

Whose fault is it?

How could there be a question of whose fault it is?

The movie will show you how we might have contributed to our partner’s needs not being met within the relationship.

Have you discussed the risk?

If you are horrified at the idea of discussing such a situation, you might leave yourself vulnerable to either being the aggrieved one or the person who has the affair!  What?


How to Prevent an Affair & other Relationship issues

We take you through a thorough process of learning about and understanding your partner’s and your own needs.

Ph 0417 997 016 today to book your appointment.

Once couples have established the relationship, we often become complacent about our attentiveness to how our partner responds to how we behave.

When couples attend with Relationship Issues, we find that often people feel ‘taken for granted’; one’s needs are not being met, and couples are inadvertently behaving in ways opposite to what their partner needs.

Spring into Relationship Rejuvenation Today

Spring is Nest & Growth Time

Spring into the excitement of your early relationship times now.

Everywhere birds and every other living creature is connected with their partner creating new life – being together expressing their love.

Spring Magnificence

Spring Magnificence

What has happened to Human’s Priorities?

Are you too busy to make a date?

When was the last time you went for a walk together, sat together to marvel at something beautiful and expressed something to your partner to make them feel special – your favourite person.

Spring is irresistible

Check out the little park photos and videos captured on

if you don’t have time to walk around to your local park or nature reserve.

The real experience gives you the feel, smells, sounds, sights and flower perfumes will have you salivating.

MAKE A DATE TODAY with your partner to walk and sit in your local garden or nature reserve.

Need Help to Revive the Excitement?

Ph 0417 997 016 TODAY for a few coaching sessions. We are the experts in reconnecting people by teaching you a communication style to revive the emotions which brought you together.

When you understand what has happened to the excitement, you will naturally generate solutions that suit both of you.

Believe in Spring

Believe in Spring


People have brought real pessimistic partners because it’s really hard to tell people how and what to do.

We just get on and SHOW YOU, and in my experience even the most pessimistic persons have found it hard to resist becoming involved in the process.

That’s how good it is to HAVE A GO. What have you got to lose?


Does it take Losing your Partner?

Too often somebody will phone for an appointment after their partner has left or threatened to do so.

Why paddle upstream?

When people have made a decision, they will be committed to justifying that decision.

Take charge before it’s too late.  Ph 0417 997 016 today 🙂