Treating Women Well with good communication

Treating Women Well Treating Women Well involves far more than legislation and company policies, although they are important and below are some good news updates. It also involves respectful relationship quality and equality. What does this all mean? As a common-sense counsellor, I have done specialist training PTSD and in Imago Relationship communication skills coaching. … Read more

Escaping domestic violence is hazardous

Escaping domestic violence is harder than you think Escaping domestic violence sounds so easy to people who have not had to negotiate it, mused Sophie as she cleared up the kitchen sink after washing up the night-before dishes. She deliberated about whether to speak about the chapter that Bea had read the previous evening. Sophie … Read more

Sister love can be the deepest possible

Sister love is a great foundation for Alida’s husband Sister love for a younger brother is something which Opa relied on to survive, Sophie thought while she and Bea cleared the lunch table. ‘Would you like me to finish translating your great-aunt Angelique’s letter?’ Bea walked to her beige leather couch and made herself comfortable. … Read more

Brother relationships with sisters are important

Brother fails to respect his sisters – Ch 35 Brother! Who needs one when he’s such a bully – even though he’s the youngest of four children, Sophie thought as she returned to sit next to Bea on the couch, after both had visited their respective toilets. Sophie had marked her great-aunt’s letter with a … Read more

Without her own mother, Alida, life was practical

Without her own mother, as she was growing up, mum was like a slave to her father and his mistress, so she didn’t really think about emotional needs. Sophie wiped her nose as she reflected on her relationship with her recently deceased mum. She recalled how she’d paused for three months from her weekly phone … Read more

Computer communicates Alida’s story to you all

Computer provides additional information Computer search time Sophie thought, then turned on her tablet computer and found the town where Alida had died. The picture expanded to show the parks and the motorway. ‘There it is. That’s where my granddaughter lives now.’ Bea announced. ‘Oh, my goodness!’ Sophie laughed. ‘Of all the towns for Flavia … Read more

Outings give institutionalised people hope – Ch 13

Outings create excitement ‘Outings might be very wet today,’ Sophie announced to Bea as she glanced out of the kitchen window. ‘Yes. It’s coffee time,’ Bea sang. ‘Laaah lele laah. I’ve been busy running up and down the stairs, collating and sorting business paperwork. What are you going to do on such a drab day?’ … Read more

Cycles of Abuse can be stopped

Cycles of Abuse as family norms Cycles of abuse is something we need to confront, Sophie thought as she returned to the dining table where Bea was ready to discuss more of Alida’s story. ‘Tante Emmanuelle told me how Opa’s other woman was always around him. Even Alida and Opa’s children had to call her … Read more

Family patterns can help or hinder you – learn more here

Family patterns are important to understand Family patterns can help you in your future relationships when there is a history of healthy relationships between couples, and parents with their children.  But what if they are not and you are trying to change some automatic reactions that you’ve learned? Change your family patterns Imago therapy coaches … Read more