Why has January become divorce month?
Divorce Month is January, some even say 8th is danger day. Although a study from the University of Washington found that the most divorces actually happen in August and March, the courts still see a spike in divorce filings right after the new year. The problems are a build up over time and the high emotionality of Christmas expectations, lack of sleep, stressing for perfection, running around, excess drinking and eating of unhealthy foods, lack of exercise, relaxation and normal routines – can cause a boil over.
Major reasons that January is divorce month:-
Holding it Together for the Holidays
Couples with children often feel as though they don’t want to disrupt the holidays with a messy divorce. Holding it together through the holidays will often mean that couples will announce their divorce in January, just following New Years.
Saturated Stress Levels
Of course, not every couple is conscientiously waiting for the holidays to pass before they get a divorce. The holiday period has been proven to be the most stressful period of the year–not just emotionally but financially. Many couples who are already on the rocks simply can’t make it through another holiday.
Many legal experts believe that the reason for this trend boils down to one idea: People don’t want to get divorced during the holidays. If couples, especially those with children, have started to consider divorce before the holidays, they make a point of staying married through the end of the year so their family can have one last holiday season together before they split. Watch out for these signs that your marriage is headed for divorce.
Don’t be a casualty of divorce month
Since January is a time for making resolutions and planning for the year ahead, couples may also want to take that time to re-evaluate their marriage.
You don’t drive your car without a service, so treat yourselves to a refresher :–
- reRomance;
- sort out issues;
- make a mission statement & goals for your marriage / relationship.
Marriage counselling assesses the strengths and weakness of the couple’s relationship and how each individual contributes to stress. Imago Therapy does this in a quick efficient way so you are not retraumatised nor get bogged down in conflict or arguing.
Simple but powerful communications skills are introduced and practiced right from the beginning of the session, and after only a few practices each, you will be competent AND have addressed the core issues in session with a very experienced, caring counsellor trained in Imago RelationshipTherapy.