Coercive behaviour linked to homicide

Coercive behaviour is not always physical but pervades a victim’s daily life Coercive behaviour is being reported on the news everywhere in Australia thought Sophie as she enjoyed a warm shower. I wonder what the change in terminology is about? As soon as she returned to the kitchen, she Googled for the difference between ‘controlling’ … Read more

Controlling behaviour is pervasive

Controlling behaviour is central to family and child abuse Controlling behaviour is overwhelming, Sophie thought as she struggled to open her eyes. She wished she could rouse her leaden body to defend herself against the flashback she’d experienced, of her opa briefly clamping his thumb and first two fingers on the back of her neck. … Read more

Friend for life is to be treasured Ch 36   

Friend who is a soul mate just clicks instantly Friend for life thought Sophie, following a quick visit by Bea’s very dear friend from the next apartment block. Sophie purchased fresh fish and vegetables at the tiny market in the village square while Bea had her afternoon nap. Later Sophie prepared the dinner and dished … Read more

Brother relationships with sisters are important

Brother fails to respect his sisters – Ch 35 Brother! Who needs one when he’s such a bully – even though he’s the youngest of four children, Sophie thought as she returned to sit next to Bea on the couch, after both had visited their respective toilets. Sophie had marked her great-aunt’s letter with a … Read more

Letter written in 1962 provides Evidence

Letter Reveals Evidence of Opa’s Character Letter sure shows Opa’s probable treatment of Alida, Sophie mused as she tidied up after lunch, while Bea had a little afternoon nap. She remembered how Bea had said many times over the years that Alida had said she needed to work cleaning the shops below the family apartment … Read more

Money is the root of all evil in the wrong hands

Money is the root of all evil in family inheritance disputes Money is the root of all evil. So true, unfortunately. Sophie thought as she waited, deeply appreciative that Bea had the capacity and willingness to translate the letter.   I always have to laugh a lot when you write about your kids and your … Read more

How could a man do what Opa did to Alida?

How could a man do what Alida’s husband did?     How could a man do what Opa did to Alida? Sophie thought as she sat on the couch, typing some of the new developments in Alida’s story. Bea emerged from the spare room with another armful of paperwork. ‘I found many things I have to … Read more

Looking through photos gives many clues

Looking through photos generates discussion Looking through photos with Bea on the second evening after the meeting at Alida’s grave with the retired nurse, Sophie’s aunt said, ‘Institutions that I visited as a social worker nearly always had a split church like this one where Alida was. Most people were always sitting doing nothing which … Read more

Tears help release your pain and grief

Tears on seeing photos of the Institution’s interior Tears sneaked over Sophie’s cheeks as the last glimmer of hope faded. What was now a beautiful property with modest-sized buildings had lulled Sophie and her sister into hoping that Alida’s last year had been pleasant. ‘Is it okay to show you more? Or is it too … Read more

Wiping tears ends one painful moment

Wiping tears gives us clear vision Wiping her eyes, then nose, seemed to be the signal for the man to quietly walk to a few metres from Sophie’s side. He smiled gently as she apologised, then pointed to the names on the sign made of tin. ‘This may have been done by Emmanuelle’s husband,’ Sophie … Read more