Professional counsellors need to use domestic violence checklists

Professional counsellors need training to identify, motivate and constructively support people to leave abusive relationships Professional counsellors were only just beginning to become alert to domestic violence at the time I left my home in 2008, Sophie thought as she walked back from the supermarket with her aunt Bea’s sturdy old shopping trolley, filled with … Read more

Isolation is a form of Coercive Control

Isolation removes a person’s support network Isolation would have been a major factor for Alida’s difficulties in Canada because she was non-English speaking, Sophie thought as she joined Bea at the lunch table. ‘You have mentioned the difficulties Alida had in Canada. A lot of non-English-speaking people’s experience in Australia has led them to awful … Read more

Sister love can be the deepest possible

Sister love is a great foundation for Alida’s husband Sister love for a younger brother is something which Opa relied on to survive, Sophie thought while she and Bea cleared the lunch table. ‘Would you like me to finish translating your great-aunt Angelique’s letter?’ Bea walked to her beige leather couch and made herself comfortable. … Read more

Coercive behaviour linked to homicide

Coercive behaviour is not always physical but pervades a victim’s daily life Coercive behaviour is being reported on the news everywhere in Australia thought Sophie as she enjoyed a warm shower. I wonder what the change in terminology is about? As soon as she returned to the kitchen, she Googled for the difference between ‘controlling’ … Read more

Controlling behaviour is pervasive

Controlling behaviour is central to family and child abuse Controlling behaviour is overwhelming, Sophie thought as she struggled to open her eyes. She wished she could rouse her leaden body to defend herself against the flashback she’d experienced, of her opa briefly clamping his thumb and first two fingers on the back of her neck. … Read more

Friend for life is to be treasured Ch 36   

Friend who is a soul mate just clicks instantly Friend for life thought Sophie, following a quick visit by Bea’s very dear friend from the next apartment block. Sophie purchased fresh fish and vegetables at the tiny market in the village square while Bea had her afternoon nap. Later Sophie prepared the dinner and dished … Read more

Brother relationships with sisters are important

Brother fails to respect his sisters – Ch 35 Brother! Who needs one when he’s such a bully – even though he’s the youngest of four children, Sophie thought as she returned to sit next to Bea on the couch, after both had visited their respective toilets. Sophie had marked her great-aunt’s letter with a … Read more

Letter written in 1962 provides Evidence

Letter Reveals Evidence of Opa’s Character Letter sure shows Opa’s probable treatment of Alida, Sophie mused as she tidied up after lunch, while Bea had a little afternoon nap. She remembered how Bea had said many times over the years that Alida had said she needed to work cleaning the shops below the family apartment … Read more

Money is the root of all evil in the wrong hands

Money is the root of all evil in family inheritance disputes Money is the root of all evil. So true, unfortunately. Sophie thought as she waited, deeply appreciative that Bea had the capacity and willingness to translate the letter.   I always have to laugh a lot when you write about your kids and your … Read more

How could a man do what Opa did to Alida?

How could a man do what Alida’s husband did?     How could a man do what Opa did to Alida? Sophie thought as she sat on the couch, typing some of the new developments in Alida’s story. Bea emerged from the spare room with another armful of paperwork. ‘I found many things I have to … Read more